Negotiating for BDSM Play & Relationships

Negotiation is one of the fundamental skills a person needs to explore BDSM. It is how we get the scenes and relationships we want, it ensures that we are on the same page as our partners and helps to ensure that we have affirmative, informed consent. 

We will begin with the basics. We will deconstruct affirmative, informed consent and discover why it’s the gold standard in BDSM. We will talk about different consent and negotiation styles and where they are best suited. Each participant is encouraged to think about their own risk profile and what level of risk is acceptable for them using the SSC, RACK, PRICK & the 4 C’s.

Developing the skills needed for negotiation can be difficult. Strategies for gaining these skills, for discovering your own boundaries and limits will be discussed.

Finally, we will talk about what elements you may want to include in your negotiations. You are encouraged to think about which elements you will want to use in varying situations – what a person discusses for a pick-up play scene will be different than what they negotiate in a TPE style relationship.

Recording:

If you are unable to attend the live class, it will be recorded. The recording and slides, as well as any links or other resources discussed in class will be sent to all ticket holders. Only my feed and the presentation are recorded, none of the participants are recorded, the chat is not recorded. The recording of the class is only available to ticket holders and will not be available to anyone else.

Workshop Access:

Tickets are on sale until 1 hour before class begins. When ticket sales close, 1 hour before the start of class, you will be sent the Webex link. Please check your spam folders if you do not see it. The email is sent via Eventbrite and can sometimes get caught in your inbox filters.

Presenter Bio:

Morgan Thorne has been practising BDSM all her adult life. She got an introduction to kink through the Queer community in the early 1990s and knew she had found ‘her people’.

Morgan has also spent a decade working as a Professional Dominant, which has allowed her to expand her skills as both a Top and a Dominant. Morgan has been offering workshops, lectures and BDSM training for a number of years as well. She has a successful Youtube channel where she educates about D/s relationships, BDSM basics and various kinky skills.

She is the author of two successful books about BDSM, including “Exploring BDSM: A Workbook for Couples (or More!) Discovering Kink“. A follow-up book is expected in early 2021.

Morgan identifies as both a Sadist and a Dominant. She enjoys playing with a variety of people of all orientations/genders/identities. BDSM is an integral part of her personal, romantic relationships. Morgan is both asexual and pan-romantic.

Prior to her work as a Professional Dominant, Morgan worked in health care. This has allowed her to gain a more thorough understanding of health and safety concerns in kink. She retired due to an injury that lead to chronic pain and disability. It also spurred her interest in medical play, a way to continue to use the skills she learned in health care and to find comfort in the loss of a much-loved career.

Morgan has been active in various forms of activism, including LGBTQIA rights and sex worker rights. She is a strong advocate for equality and the human rights of all people.