Have Safewords Become Controversial? Safe words are a well-known aspect of BDSM. We are all aware of the pop culture references to them, the joke that they have become in vanilla society. There has been a backlash against safe words in recent years by parts of the kink community – a group who does not seem to understand what safe… Continue reading "Are Safewords Controversial?"
Category: D/s Relationships
I am a submissive woman who seeks a Dominant man, so I posted a profile and an ad on a popular website. I received a message from a Dominant who sounds ideal for me. He told me upfront that he is married. That he and his wife have an agreement that as long as he doesn’t “bring it home,” she… Continue reading "Ask – Polyamory in BDSM Relationships: Verifying it’s Okay"
Kinky in a Vanilla Relationship? I’m having a hard time finding a kinky relationship, so I’m wondering if it’s possible for kinky people to be in vanilla relationships and have it work out long term? I’m starting to think that I will never find a girlfriend that is into BDSM and interested in having a long term relationship with me.… Continue reading "Ask – Kinky in a Vanilla Relationship"
BDSM has its own language, so let’s start with the variety of BDSM roles. It’s a language that you should learn if you want to meet others and get out into the community. The trick is that the words really only have a general definition, but the specifics can change from person to person. Learning the Language – Glossary of… Continue reading "Glossary – BDSM Roles"
Do you find that you get a lot of guys that say they are submissive and flip their role after? The submissive who isn’t submissive I have encountered this problem of people who call themselves submissive, but who seem to want to direct every little aspect of play or an encounter. I’ve found that this happens with people of all… Continue reading "Ask – Not Really Submissive?"