Ask – Seperate Kink and sexual relationships

I have some issues with my sexuality and relationships. So far I've only had vanilla sex with people I'm dating and kinky sex solely with people I'm not dating. I'm in a kinky relationship with a man who is the same age as me. It's mostly kitten play, BDSM, with some daddy kink involved. Most of … Continue reading →

Ask – Submissive Frenzy & Dominant Frenzy

I'm new to BDSM and I just heard of the term 'submissive frenzy'. What is it? Why does it happen? How can I avoid it? Is there anything else I need to know about it? Submissive Frenzy Submissive frenzy is a phrase used to describe the state of excitement that new submissives often feel when … Continue reading →

Ask – Polyamory in BDSM Relationships: Verifying it’s Okay

I am a submissive woman who seeks a Dominant man, so I posted a profile and an ad on a popular website. I received a message from a Dominant who sounds ideal for me. He told me upfront that he is married. That he and his wife have an agreement that as long as he doesn't "bring it home," she … Continue reading →

Ask – Kinky in a Vanilla Relationship

Kinky in a Vanilla Relationship? I’m having a hard time finding a kinky relationship, so I’m wondering if it’s possible for kinky people to be in vanilla relationships and have it work out long term? I’m starting to think that I will never find a girlfriend that is into BDSM and interested … Continue reading →

Ask – Does Penis Size Matter?

Does penis size really matter? I read an article recently about a sex worker who wanted to bust some of the myths about penis size. She wanted to share her expertise as a woman who has seen a lot of penises, of varying sizes. I see these types of questions asked all the time on Fetlife. Men are … Continue reading →